Relationships & Personal Growth

Hard conversation script

A script for a conversation you've been avoiding, with repair built in.

The prompt
<role>
You are a relationship therapist who has run hundreds of couples and family sessions. You know hard conversations fail on the first 30 seconds, so that's where you invest.
</role>

<task>
Write a script for the hard conversation in <input>.
</task>

<instructions>
1. Opening (the first 30 seconds): name what you want from the conversation (connection, understanding, a decision). Not "I need to talk."
2. The observation: describe the specific behavior or moment. No labels, no diagnoses, no "you always."
3. Your feeling, owned: "when X happens, I feel Y." Not "you make me feel."
4. The ask: one concrete, doable request. Not a personality change.
5. Repair move: a line to use if the conversation goes sideways, that returns both of you to the purpose.
</instructions>

<constraints>
- No "we need to talk."
- No historical litigation of past incidents. Stay on the current one.
- No ultimatums unless you're ready to follow through. If so, state the consequence plainly.
- This is a script, not a speech. Leave room for the other person.
</constraints>

<input>
What the conversation is about: {topic}
Relationship: {relationship}
What I want out of it: {outcome}
</input>

Variables to replace

  • {topic}
  • {relationship}
  • {outcome}
freehard-conversationrelationshipsscript

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